Muslims around the
world all live by and obey the same basic Islamic laws. Some Muslim traditions,
however, are blended with national traditions varying from country to country,
and often even within areas of a specific country.
In Indonesia, for
instance, young people are still bound by Muslim rules when it comes down to
questions such as dating and getting married. Here, as elsewhere, dating is
seen only as a way to get acquainted with one's wife or husband to be shortly
before the wedding takes place.
Meetings always take
place in amongst the presence of families to avoid physical desires taking over
and often marriages have been arranged, although the young couple will usually
be consulted in the final choice of spouse. In any case, they often have next
to no time to really get used to each other.
With the age of the
Internet, life has become a little easier with respect to finding and getting
acquainted to a possible partner. Special Muslim dating websites provide a safe
surrounding for young Indonesians to meet and interact with other members of
their faith.
One such facility is
provided by Alnaddy, which are dedicated to ensuring that young Muslims from
Indonesia and the rest of the world can safely and legally interact.
Because they can
interact without fear of immoral activities, parents are usually happy to allow
them to talk to to potentail suitors without much interference. When a
courtship like this reaches the point where marriage is seriously considered,
an intercedent will approach the bride's family and make a formal proposal of
marriage during a ceremony involving refreshments and the giving of gifts.
An engagement
meeting and formal announcement of marriage is then arranged, where a cleansing
ceremony will be performed and passages will be read from the Quran. This is
obviously very much part of traditional Muslim weddings throughout the world.
Indonesian weddings
all have some things in common. These include the fact that they are usually large,
raucous events with elaborate dresses, masses of food and dancing. Attendance
by all who are invited is essential, as not turning up is seen as a serious offense.
Some of the regional
differences consist of the Bugis tribe performing a ceremony called the nikah
to marry the couple, with the parent not being present; in Northern Sumatra,
poetry is recited by the bride's family to welcome the arriving groom in their
home, where the ceremony is typically held and on Bali, the groom traditionally
wears a sword as part of his wedding outfit.
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